If you are jumping into the planning phase for your wedding, you’ve probably discussed the idea of doing or not doing a first look. I know as a wedding photographer it’s one of the most common questions I get asked. And rightfully so because it’s such a special moment. Each and every couple should feel supported for the way they decide to celebrate it.

In this post I’ll be sharing information on first looks. That way you can make an informed decision on whether or not it’s the right fit for you.

What is a first look?

Before we dive straight in let’s go ahead and get our toes wet by talking about what a first look is.

A first look is exactly what it sounds like, it’s your first time seeing someone on your wedding day. Its that first glance after a period of time apart and they usually take place after the getting ready portion of your day.

During a first look with just the couple, it provides a time where they can see each other without anyone else present. Allowing them to act and respond in a way that is true to them without any pressure.

After a first look most couples will set aside some additional time to spend with their soon to be husband or wife before they are tucked away for their ceremony. By setting aside this time it also provides an opportunity to get some portraits of the soon to be newly weds before the reception.

Are wedding day first looks only for the bride and the groom?

Absolutely not! As a wedding photographer I have shot first looks with bridesmaids, groomsmen, mothers, fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers. You can totally plan out a first look with whoever you want to share this special moment with. You can even include them all if you want to totally up to you!

I don’t want to do a first look on my wedding day are there some alternatives?

The short answer is yes there are! The long answer is that there are tons of first look alternatives that you can include during your wedding day. Below I will leave a list of alternatives to give you some ideas and who knows maybe you’ll find one that you love!

1. First touch (a first touch is when a couple gets to be present with one another without seeing each other. They get to feel their partners presence before their ceremony and is usually conducted by standing back to back and holding hands.)
2. First Read ( a first read is a time where couples can read something their partner has written to them. It could be their vows or a letter that they have written to their future spouse. Sometimes it is done in privacy while getting ready, but it may also be done during a first touch or a first look)
3. First Gift ( a first gift is where a couple can exchange gifts with one another for the first time as they become a newly married couple.)

Pros and cons of doing a first look on your wedding day

Pro

Doing a first look on your wedding day can open up time on the tail end of your day. Having a first look before your ceremony will allow you to get a majority of your photos done before heading to the reception. That way you can truly enjoy the party by getting to mingle with all of your guests. Who have traveled from all over just to celebrate you!

Con

If you want that big reaction at the altar there is a chance that it might not happen. If you decide to do a first look before hand. In my experience as a wedding photographer, this is a reason why couples wait to see one another.

Pro

It’s an opportunity for couples to just hang out with one another for a few minutes before their ceremony. After all you have just spent a solid amount of your day apart from one another. It’s perfect time to get out all the butterflies and destress if you need it.

Con

Depending on your wedding venue lighting conditions may not be ideal during the time of your first look. I know as a wedding photographer I always try to find spots that provide shade. Sometimes it can be nearly impossible especially during midday sun.

Tips for planning a first look during your wedding day

My biggest recommendation for planning a first look during your wedding day is maintain communication. Talk with your partner and see if a first look is something you both are interested in doing.

After that talk with your vendors specifically your planner and photographer. They will be able to give you insight and direction from past experience. Helping to ensure you not only have a great experience but also get great photos.

If a first look is in important to you then build it into your timeline. Set aside a chunk of time my recommendation is at least 20 minutes. Providing you with plenty of time to not only have a first look but also to reconnect with your partner.

Last but not least go into it with an open mind. Leave behind all those expectations and social media posts you’ve seen floating around on what a first look is suppose to look like. I know getting into the comparison game is so easy, but your first look isn’t suppose to be perfect or like every one else’s.

Now the decision is up to you

I hope by the end of this post you have a larger understanding of wedding day first looks and can decide whether having one is the right for you. As a wedding photographer it is my goal to educate my couples so they can make informed decisions about their wedding day.

I do this by creating resources to help you tackle every part of your day without fear of the unknown. If you loved this post and want more info than my blog is great place to look. And lastly if you are looking for a photographer to not only capture your big day but also celebrate with you. Then get in touch! I would be so honored to capture your wedding and celebrate with you.